Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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I was given a very important message today from a great friend that I had not spoken to in months.  It was a brief call and she was extremely surprised that I called her out of the blue.  We shared a few things with each other and one of the things I told her was about a social media conference I attended a few weeks ago.  I won a pass and was able to go one day.  It was the Niche Parent Social Conference in Fort Lauderdale.  I was simply amazed at the things I learned.  I did not realize that blogging was so deep!  It’s a whole new world out there in cyberspace and, there are some AMAZING writers that I’ve stumbled upon.  I learned so much and felt so blessed to be able to attend, if even for a day.  However, afterwords, I felt inadequate in regard to my writing skills and to this blog in particular.  They gave us a little badge with our twitter address and the name of our blog.  On the bottom it said “Blogger/Social Influencer”.  Who did I think I was, that I could just put stuff out in cyberspace and think it was of value?  I am in no way the type of blogger that the bloggers there are.  I was so impressed with them and at the same time I felt out of place.  These great writers have thousands and thousands of followers and I barely have hit 50.

During the classes I felt energized and jotted down so many ideas for my little blog, In the Motherhood Full of Dreams.  But then I just felt bla and out of place.  So I haven’t written anything in a while.

My friend shared how her own passion for Yoga, something she picked up recently and has now mastered (my own opinion not her words lol) is something she does not question.  She feels so confident in doing this thing she loves that she doesn’t stop to think about whether or not others are better at it than her.  She told me to stop comparing myself to others, to just do what I love, which is to write and share stories.  I am reminded that I didn’t start this blog to impress anyone, I didn’t do it for any other reason but to express myself.  I have to be honest with myself as I’ve always been and start writing honestly again.  People will judge, will have opinions and that’s okay.  I am a new blogger, I do not expect to “blow up” as some of us say, overnight.  This blog is my place to share my stories about MY Motherhood and my dreams and so I am back!  Stay tuned…..

and thank YOU for reading my words! 🙂


6 thoughts on “Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

    Leslie said:
    September 27, 2013 at 11:24 pm

    Keep on doing you and you will be great! Xoxo


    Lillian said:
    September 28, 2013 at 6:34 am

    We all need and outlet. You are blessed to have found what inspires you and at the same time other too.
    Keep blogging!! Be happy!!!


    Alexandra said:
    September 28, 2013 at 8:59 am

    When you love what you do there’s no stopping you,,I agree strongly, can’t wait to read more of your writings..


    Yvonne said:
    November 21, 2013 at 6:44 pm

    I’m impressed Chiclet. Remember that we didn’t come out of a mold – we are all unique with all different life experiences and this is your beginning and what a great one it is. You may not have a lot of followers, but don’t compare – you’ll get there with your positive outlook. Keep your head up and your positive attitude always shines through and that’s what will keep your followers coming back for more…just like me!!


    Cheryl said:
    November 23, 2013 at 7:02 pm

    I am riding in the back of a car with a few minutes to myself and remembered to FINALLY check out your blog! I am so proud of you for doing your thing Janesita! This is all about expressing what is in YOUR heart, mind and spirit. It’s much too easy for each of us to compare ourselves and our gifts, talents and abilities…but the fact of the matter is that no one else can be, do or offer what each of us is meant to be, do or offer. Trying to share one of my favorite quotes that never fails to inspire me. I just shared this in my classes this week. It’s written by the famous dancer Martha Graham…Unfortunately I can’t get it to paste here so I will email it to you. But meanwhile, keep making it do what it do! And know that I am mad proud of you Janesita! Xoxo


    December 19, 2013 at 8:02 pm

    Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. It’s not easy seeing someone excelling in something you feel your not the best at. I will say that when I read your first entry the first thing I thought to myself was, “WOW she is such a great writer”. The way you convey your thoughts to paper is phenomenal.

    With that said, these amazing bloggers/writers started from the ground up like yourself. Remember Rome wasn’t built in a day… YOU CAN DO IT! Take what you learned from them and give it the Janeth twist! 🙂 OHHH and next time you go to a conference I want to go! 🙂


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