Month: April 2014


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Dis­clo­sure:  I am par­tic­i­pat­ing in this share campaign on behalf of Blog­gin’ Mamas. I will be receiving a bot­tle of Voli Vodka for my participation.



Pit­bull is offering fans an opportunity to spend a day with him in Miami as part of a social media con­test for Voli Vodka. The con­test kicked off on April 10th and is running for 6 weeks. Fans are able to upload a photo, up until 5/21/14, that shows how they “Light Up The Night” using #Tur­nUpTheVoli. Once pho­tos are tagged #Tur­nUpTheVoli on consumers preferred social media plat­forms they will automatically be entered into the con­test. 10 finalists will be chosen based on vot­ing results and those final­ists will receive a signed Pit­bull collector’s item.  On 5/29/14, a grand prize win­ner will be cho­sen. The grand prize win­ner (and a com­pan­ion) will be flown to Miami (or should we say 305) for a two-night stay and one of the most excit­ing expe­ri­ences they will ever have includ­ing the opportunity to meet Pitbull.


Can’t See Your Closet Floor? Time For Goodwill.

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 This is a PSA on behalf of Bloggin Mamas Collective and the Ad Council. No monetary compensation was given for this post.


Spring is a time for all things new.  Who doesn’t love to start fresh, do some deep cleaning and organizing?  Some of us still have past holiday decor laying around, or our closets are exploding with items we can no longer use or need.  Of course our first impulse is to go out shopping, but this year, before we get that new Spring wardrobe, or new holiday decor, let’s do some Spring cleaning and help out our community too!  Goodwill has come up with a fun and insightful little quiz called:


What’s Your Clothing Personality??
Goodwill, Donate Stuff. Create Jobs.

Really inspired now?  It’s not hard to declutter when you’re focused and have a plan.  Time to search all your rooms, let your home breathe again.  Make room for new things by donating to Goodwill and simultaneously help people in your community.   Here’s a suggestion on how just 7 days can make that fresh start easier.

#7DaysofSpringCleaning Details:


Day 1) Clear your closet clutter

Day 2) Time to tackle the kitchen

Day 3) Spread holiday cheer (holiday decorations, center pieces, Halloween)

Day 4) Downsize your tech toys (used laptops)

Day 5) Clean out your office supplies

Day 6) Provide quality entertainment (unused movies, video games)

Day 7) Downsize your bookshelf


It’s helpful to make three piles, trash, donate and maybe.  You don’t have to spend too much time trying to figure out if you should keep it initially.  Declutter and then come back to the maybe box later.  Once you have your donations ready, you can calculate your donation impact. and feel better about your efforts.You can also go to which shows how your donation helps your community. You’ve done a wonderful job!! Now you can go and get yourself that new outfit or new decor to welcome Spring.




This has been part of the Donate Stuff. Create Jobs. It’s the tagline of Ad Council’s campaign with Goodwill®, which reminds people that their donations support people who are seeking to earn jobs and build careers. To see how the process works, just watch “How We Do It” PSA.

Protecting Your Children from Cyber Bullies

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As a parent of Millennials  it is important to me that I know that cyber bullying is a real issue for our children today.  With the many platforms of social media, it’s become easy for our kids to be victims of online bullies.  My children are still very young and no way am I going to let them have a social media account at this young age but before you know it, they may very well start asking.  I will put my foot down and try to protect them from these things but you must know the difference between protecting and completely sheltering perhaps keeping them from something they need to know how to use.  Always keep an open door for your children, let them know that nothing is off limits when it comes to having a discussion.  Whatever they are going through, let them know you are there for them.  Even though we think they should know this, it is important for you to verbalize it to them.  Alexandra, mother of four, recently had an experience with cyber bullies attacking her oldest daughter.  I asked her to share with us what happened and what advice she could give us from a parent’s point of view.  Below is an interview I had with her.


Q.  How old is your daughter and what grade is she in? 

A.  My daughter is a sophomore (in High School) and 15 years old .

Q.   How did you find out about this issue? 

A.  I found out about this issue from my own daughter.  Luckily, she felt she could share this with us.

Q.  Does she know the bullier?

Yes.  The bullies were friends with her in the past and have even slept over our house.

Q.  What kinds of things were they saying or doing? 

A.  It started with them making fun of her looks. What she wore, her teeth, her hair, her weight and then it escalated to hear say accusing her of talking about them, instigating arguments, bringing other people in by telling others that she was talking about others, then laughing at her each day with groups of people as she walked by talking about her loud enough that others can hear . They wrote stuff about her on Twitter and instagram and made sure she saw what they were writing about.  They threatened to pull her hair and wrote that she was scared of them and that they were going to fight her after-school, challenging her.

Q.  How did this make your child and your family feel? 

A. Our daughter was upset and couldn’t believe that it escalated to this point. She was angry, stressed; especially since it was during testing period at school.  We were angry as well and wanted to go to those girls ourselves and talk some sense into them.

Q.  What advice did you give your child? 

It was happening for a couple of months and at first I told her to ignore their comments hoping it would stop.  It didn’t.  When our daughter called us from school & told us they were going to jump her after-school, we said enough is enough.  Something needed to be done so we told her to approach the main girl by herself and ask what was the problem, on school grounds, and if she was going to fight her to do it now.  (At least on school grounds, there are people that can step in and protect her.  We didn’t want our daughter to be bullied and wanted her to stick up for herself.  When my daughter approached the girl, both my daughter and the main bully were taken to the  principals office.   They were both spoken to and parents were called.  I still feel that this wasn’t enough because the worry is still there for my daughter’s safety . She’s been working out learning how to defend herself ever since this started & will continue learning to defend herself

Q. What kind of advice would you offer parents who experience this? 

My advice to parents & kids is to be as open as you can with each other.  Confide in your parents, trust them enough to tell them what’s going on, for they will not judge you.  They love you.

Q.What advice would you give to parents of kids who are the bully? 

To the parents of the bullier I say take this very serious because I feel this is a cry for help.  You should recognize that your teen needs to be punished & needs to see the severity of their actions.  Set limits on them . Get them help and make sure they apologize to the victims and understand what they did wrong and what could have happened as a result of their bullying such as physical, mental & suicidal results.

Q. I understand you talked to school officials, and did you feel this resolved the issue? 

I felt that this issue was taken with concern by the school but I feel them talking to them is not enough.  I still worry for my daughter’s safety.   I feel all parents should get together and  with the teens  and that follow ups should be made not only by counselors with the kids but with parents .

Q. What advice do you give kids who may go through this and not know what to do? 

I would tell kids that never keep this to themselves they are supported always . I would tell parents to always communicate with kids question your kids especially if you see there moods changing or if they are acting different or not talking at all & stay isolated

Q. What else would you tell parents or kids that may have a similar issue? 

I say to all parents and teens you are not alone others are going through this if you open up & tell others you would be surprised how many have gone through this also and are stronger from this experience because they bonded and believed in there teens, listened to them and stood by them


Cyber Bullying Tips from the Anti-Bully Blog
Cyber Bullying Tips from the Anti-Bully Blog

Love Our Children Unconditionally

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I saw the movie, August: Osage County, and really enjoyed the way they portrayed the complicated relationships between parents and children.  Relationships that unfold like a repeated story, as mothers and fathers parent the way we are taught by our parents and how we are raised, regardless of whether it was good or bad.  I won’t get into a movie review as you can find plenty of those online, but I will say that observing the matriarch of that family (actress Meryl Streep) along with her sister and the relationships they had with their children was enlightening.  We learn as we age, the older the wiser and I believe that more with every passing year.  But sometimes, someone helps us to see by opening our eyes, forcing us to look within.  There is still so much I do not know about parenting and yet so much I know now than I did a decade ago.  I don’t want to have a bad relationship with my children.  I do not want to encourage them by discouraging them.  I want to be different, I want to break the cycle.  I do not want to treat them the only way I know how, I want to be better.

In this technologically advanced time, we have internet and blogs that mothers can reference to cross reference what other moms are doing.  We compare ourselves and wonder if we are doing it right.  But each mother, is different, each child is different and we must all find our own right ways.  None of us are perfect, but we can certainly try to be the best for our kids.  As they grow, they will know, they will see, that we did what we had to do, even if they didn’t like it.  I am tough because I have to be and want them to learn the life lessons I try to teach them.  I am weak, because I am human and I may not always be right.  I want my kids to know that they can do anything, be anything but I will also let them know why something may not sound like a good idea, or why something may not turn out how they think it will.  Communication is key, let’s talk to our kids like we talk to one another.  Be open and let them feel your unconditional love.  Unconditional in the sense that it doesn’t matter if they fail, it matters if they get up again.  It doesn’t matter if they failed a test, as long as you know they did their best, it doesn’t matter that they lost a game, or missed a shot, what matters is that they try and try again.  Success will come, in different forms.  I love you Daniel and I love you Addison.  I want to be better for you, I want you to know that I am trying to evolve and be the best that I can be for you.


How Men Can Help an Overworked Mom

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In sickness and in health, in good times and bad
In sickness and in health, in good times and bad.
You’ve said it before and you’ve read it before, women are overworked at home, at work, in marriage, in motherhood, in life and many times we feel alone.  Some of us have a support system and have good husbands, partners, baby daddy’s whatever you call them.  And yes big ups to you guys who step up to the plate, we are thankful and grateful for you, however there will be times we need you to do more, period.   “But I do help”, you are thinking.  Sometimes, it is still not enough.  Now before you, my dear reader, flips out, let me explain.  I believe we should be grateful for the help you give us, no matter how small, but  lets not paint rainbows on dull landscapes in which the sun only shines sometimes, occasionally, or every other week.  We need you guys in our lives to be more consistent.  Be even more supportive than you are and allow us to have our breakdowns without thinking less of us.  For me, one of the times I still struggle with, is that time of the month where I experience PMS.  (Oh Yes, it is real my friends).  Perhaps you experience not so bad episodes of this, but for me, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve turned into a mini monster during “that” time.
I truly think that I need my husband to just take hold of the reigns for those days and let me be, because it is not healthy for anyone to be near me! HA! My already thinned out patience, totally disappears and I become enraged easily.  It is horrible but I recognize it and will start to ask for help during these times, but I need my hubby and all fathers out there to GET it and not give us ‘tude about our needs.  There may also just be a bad day for us, where we just need extra support and need you to handle it all.  Then there are the times we moms get sick, can’t get out of bed, can you cater to us please?!  Let us recuperate, build us back up.  An empty bag cannot stand alone.  In my household, we both work, and come home exhausted, I get it.  BUT there may be times where I need you to do homework with the kids, walk the dogs, feed the dogs, cook dinner, pack lunches, bathe each child, layout their pj’s, get out the school clothes for the next day, tuck them into bed, wash the dishes, tuck them into bed again, clean up the messes of the day, tell them to go back to bed, write in the kids school planners, maybe fold a load of laundry, yell at them to go back to bed.  Is this too much to ask?  Do you appreciate us and all that WE do consistently?  Mothers Unite, Let your Voice be heard.  Be grateful you hear, Be thankful they say, YES YES and YES!  But Men, be Grateful for US as well and help us recoup, give us hope in OUR time of need.  In sickness and health, on good days and bad days.  That is why I am calling all Fathers, to be there for our little ones, for us and save us in OUR time of Need! You’d be appreciated to infinity and beyond.